When going through challenging times, and it is intertwined with something else happening that you have little to no control over, it can feel like a bitter pill to swallow. Some examples might be, someone close to you passing away, a change of jobs, friendships or relationships changing or ending, your health changing, or having to move before you are ready or want to.
Sometimes spiritual and/or personal growth can help you get through tough situations by focusing on what you can have influence over. Your daily, weekly, or once in a while spiritual practice is something you have a choice to practice. You might take a moment to notice what you feel drawn to spiritually and what practices just don’t resonate with you. This is all important information, even the things that are not working for you.
For instance, so many people struggle with wanting to sit and clear their mind to meditate as a spiritual practice. That is a great practice but it’s not for everyone. There are so many different types of spiritual practices and types of meditation. If you like moving, try meditating with your eyes open while walking, you could pick a mantra to repeat every time your foot lands on the ground, or walk a labyrinth or a labyrinth pattern, if you don’t have one already made for you in your community. Alternatively, you could listen to a meditation that has visualizations if you want to be still but don’t like the “emptying your mind” technique. Some people love to keep it simple with breathing techniques, of which there are many many different types! There really is a spiritual or meditative type of practice for everyone, if you haven’t found a good fit yet, don’t give up! A little thinking outside of the box could help you get set with a practice that works for you.
It is important to remember, it’s not about forcing yourself to feel ok with something, but rather looking at a situation with curiosity, when you are ready to do so, and discovering what you might learn about yourself in the process.
Personal and/or spiritual growth can sometimes be used instead of grieving or having feelings in order to avoid feelings. It’s important to allow yourself to have your feelings first! If it’s not something you do naturally, letting your feelings out can feel like a challenging, uncomfortable, or messy step. This can be especially so if you haven’t yet worked out how to sit with your feelings and practice self care that uniquely works for you. Repressed feelings tucked away in an internal container have a way of coming out at inconvenient times, so it’s helpful to develop a healthy way of emptying your “feelings” container.
If you struggle with knowing how to have your feelings first, or are not sure where to start with your personal or spiritual growth, contact us here to get started on your journey today.